Thursday, February 19, 2015

True Life: I'm an Introvert

Take some time off and have a relaxing hot bath. Make sure to light a few scented candles and use bath salts to really increase the relaxation experience with some aroma therapy. #rest #relaxation #pamper

Pssssst! I have a confession. My name is Kaitlin and I'm an introvert.

As a mom of two, I CRAVE alone time. I rarely have any quiet time anymore (yeah, those jokes about never even going to the bathroom alone again are unfortunately true). Usually after the kids go to bed, that's the time Grant and I have to talk, watch TV or have dinner. I even gave up a girls' night this week to stay home and paint my toenails in silence while Grant took the kids to the park.

I came across this article recently and a light suddenly went on - I'm an introvert!! It doesn't really make sense. I'm outgoing, social and get along well with most anyone. But yet a lot of the introverted qualities it seems to reign true for me. Can any of you relate?

10 Things You Need to Know Before Dating the Outgoing Introvert

1. When we see you after a long day, we might be all irritable and not want to talk  (Yes, as in I need quiettttt!!!!!!!!) 

It has nothing to do with you. Outgoing introverts, though still introverts at their core, often need to recharge after a large use of social energy. After a long day of dealing with people, our social batteries are drained and we need to unwind and recover, usually alone. 

2. We’re charming creatures and can be the life of the party, but... (So true! I can be very outgoing ... but half the time would rather stay home!) 

You’ll be surprised how much we actually live in our heads. People often confuse us for extroverts, but we're too introspective and over-think too much to be one. 

3. If we like you, we really like you. 

We don’t waste our time with people we’re not completely crazy about. If we agreed to go on a date with you, we like you. Take it as a huge compliment.

4. We have times when we’re weird with our phones. (This is me! I totally screen my calls and would much rather email/text than talk). 

Some days we can talk for hours, but sometimes we’re not so good at replying and talking on the phone. Don’t take it personally -  we screen our phone calls, even from our closest friends. Outgoing introverts sometimes hate the phone because it’s all, like, intrusive and tears our minds away from whatever we’re deeply focusing on (and we are always deeply focusing on something). Our mind doesn't change direction easily. Listening to one thing and seeing something else is a lot of sensory input piled on top of everything that's already going on in our heads.

5. But don’t worry, in person we’ll listen to you for hours.

We have spectrums of introversion, so we’re good listeners. We’ll always be naturally in tune with how you’re feeling, so we’ll be able to see through any front you put up and make you jump into the deep end.

6. We need to dip our foot in the pool first. 

We need time to warm up, so, like, chill. We tend not to outwardly express our feelings and spill our whole life story in the first hour of meeting you. Or the first year. 

7. Our energy level depends on our environment.

Yes, we can get annoyed easily. If we vibe with the crowd, we can get our energy from human interactions. But if we don’t, we’ll start to get really introspective and reflective, and tend to withdraw into ourselves. It’s kinda like a hit or miss. We’re very selectively social. But it’s not because we dislike people - it's actually the opposite. We dislike the barriers like small talk (which often comes with going out) creates between people, and try to avoid it at all costs.

8. We kinda hate the typical first date. 

Maybe it’s 'cause we hate small talk or something. Over-thinking is like a part of us so at times we enjoy a break from our heads. Be willing to go somewhere authentic where we won’t have to awkwardly sit across from each other asking the typical "get to know you" questions. 

9. You'll think we are flirty with everyone. (This is true for me! Before we were dating, Grant thought I was "really into" this guy who I was just really nice to - which after he got to know me he realized was just how I am with everyone ...)

Okay here's the thing, when we inevitably have to interact with people, we make it seem like there’s nothing in the world we'd rather be doing. It's 'cause we're, like, overly sensitive and so we go out of our way to make other people feel comfortable and happy. We're intuitive and outgoing at the same time.

10. We can see through bullshit.

So don't try to deceive usWe’re kinda like a human lie detector. We will always find out the truth (muhahaha)... just kidding. But for real, we often have a keen eye for detail, noticing things that may escape others around us. 
Research has found that introverts pay more attention to detail and exhibit increased brain activity when processing visual information. A study shows that the brain of an introvert weighs internal cues more strongly than external motivational and reward cues. Since outgoing introverts are a unique blend of both an extrovert and introvert, we rely on our own internal instincts and logic to make decisions and form beliefs. 
So basically you're screwed. In a good way. 
So! Would you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert? Here's another interesting article on introvert qualities.

What do you do to relax, get some peace and quiet among the chaos of everyday life!?


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